By Robin Auger

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Many of us try to commit to a relationship with others before developing a healthy, loving, and loyal relationship with ourselves. As an intuitive life coach and empath from Lincoln, CA, I can provide direct insight and guidance to people with daily struggles that they feel within themselves and their relationships.

No one I know thinks: 

“Hum... I want a relationship that is in constant turmoil. I am looking for someone who wants me to care take of them, love them, while my needs go unmet. He must disregard my feelings, be untrustworthy, avoid expressing feelings of intimacy toward me and will not let me have a voice. I must be made to feel diminished, worthless, crippled by codependency, enmeshed, and ashamed. Lack of boundaries, fear of them leaving me, tug of war, living my life in total unbalance...”

Get the picture? I may have gone to the far side, but as a psychic medium and life coach, I have met, read, and coached individuals dealing with this, and worse. I've been there myself.

This is what becomes of those of us who grew up in homes where our needs went unmet, and the validation that we needed to be in touch with the viable parts of ourselves were never fully met.

In order to develop a genuine sense of self, we need the validation of who we are as an individual. We can't connect or create a relationship with the parts of our self that have never been acknowledged as viable and healthy, or valuable as a child. Through communication counseling, we can choose to become fully engaged with the whole entity of who we are, and achieve it at every nook and cranny.

Most of us put more value on others than we do ourselves. To have freedom in a healthy loving genuine relationship with anyone else, we must first have a strong recognized relationship with our self and our own innate truth.

With conflict resolutions coaching, we discover a conscious awareness of what we need, how we feel, and what hurts, teaching us that respect and nurturing is what's required to establish a balance within ourselves, so that we can then take care of ourselves in healthy ways. Developing your own identity, being present to your individuality, and fully accepting you for you, allows you to have healthy and fulfilling relationships with people who are fully aware of themselves.